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The Importance of Self Confidence

by admin, February 26, 2019

Many aspects of men’s lives are dictated by confidence. Self-confidence is often both underrated and overrated. However, it is a critical part of every man’s life. It directly correlates to how successful we are as men personally, romantically and financially. The importance of self-confidence is vast and out of all the content I will publish every week in this site, confidence is the proper place to start.

But before we dive into this topic, I want you to ask yourself: Who Am I? I believe it is extremely important to understand who we are as men to become that modern distinguished gentlemen we all want to be.

 

Let’s Define Self Confidence

Simply put and straight out of the dictionary, self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment. We often mistake self-confidence for a false belief of who we are as men. And more often than not, the result is an arrogant image of ourselves towards the world. Self-confidence is not an arrogant man going around treating everyone else as less than him. Far from it, it is a clear understanding of who your abilities and qualities and how you interpret that outwards. It simply is how well you understand who you are as a man.

As mentioned above, self-confidence is that clear sense of your skills, traits, and intelligence. It translates into your inner self and ultimately the world around you. Beyond an external image, you will carry outside in the world, it is that deep connection with your true self and everything that goes along with it.

 

Defining Yourself

BikerThe key here is to understand that which defines you as a man. Those fundamental values, beliefs systems, and passions that make you who you are. And in that regard, this is naturally a very personal exercise. So let’s go back to that initial question at the beginning of this article: Who Am I?

The key here is not to install a false sense of security or self-image, quite the opposite. The main factor here is to have a solid grasp of your individuality and applying that inwards and subsequently outwards. And just like any other exercise, it takes time and practice. It just simply takes a mastery approach and a certain level of elegance.

 

The Importance of Self Confidence

The importance is quite vast to be completely frank. It directly correlates to how successful we are as men both personally, romantically, and financially. It dictates many aspects of our lives without even realizing it most often. And because self-confidence is both an internal and external image of ourselves, it carries itself around us and effectively becomes us.

To me, personally, this has been a long road to understanding my abilities, qualities, and intelligence. I often thought I understood those abilities and those qualities that made me who I was as a man. Unfortunately, I often misunderstood them and inadvertently portrait and carried a false image of myself around the world. The reason why I am making a point of this is that it directly translated into my career, my relationships and more importantly the image I have of myself.

 

How It Translates In Your Life

The impact self-confidence has in men’s lives is immense. Without even realizing, it creates ripples that touch every aspect of your life. Because it is as much an internal as it is an external image it translates into you that men who you believe you are. Simply put, you become that man you believe you so falsely believe in. I’ve always thought this phrase had a lot of weight in relationships and throughout my own personal growth process, it has gained even more momentum. You can only make someone as happy as you are with yourself.

Think about that phrase for a minute…

Now let’s break that down. We are very social beings, we thrive in social settings. It is simply how we are wired. So by that idea, we are highly keen and feed off each other’s mindset. Now if your own image of yourself is that of uncertainty and constant doubt and fear, then you slowly portrait that image outwards. It simply affects and impacts you as that social being that you are and thrive on.

Applying Self Confidence Into Your Life

Once you have a solid sense of who you are, then it is a process of following your gut instinct and letting it transpire in your thoughts, behavior, and actions. Let it that feeling of trust in your abilities, qualities, and judgment naturally become apparent in how you carry yourself. That feeling of trust in yourself is absolutely for you to nourish and own.

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Let it come across in those simple day to day interactions. Do not doubt it or second guess it, embrace it.

 

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18 comments
Xaric Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

Self-confidence is maybe one of the most important traits of successful people. Those who are confident with themselves seem to take the exact right actions to achieve their goals effortlessly like it’s just a part of their routine.

Do you happen to know any good courses or books to develop self-confidence? I am in love with the self-help section 😛

Looking forward to your reply,

Xaric

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 27, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hi Xaric,

    Thank you for your comment! There are various critical traits successful people have innately or build over time but more importantly, continue to work on it. It is a never-ending process but one where staying open and humble to continue to grow is key to growth.

    And yes, absolutely! I run two companies and one of them is more focused on self-development, personal growth, and life abundance. It is called The Higher Path Project and you can read my articles on various topics that break the norm and taps into your full potential. This is the website if you want to take a look: http://thehigherpathproject.com

    Once you are there, navigate to “Resources” -> “Must Read Books”. I personally have read and still own all those books among others and each of them brings amazing concepts, practices, and stories that I have personally have implemented in my life.

    Feel free to also bookmark both sites as I will be releasing more content and helpful resources intended to the pursuit of growth and life abundance.

    Again, thank you for your comment and wish you an amazing 2019.

    Feel free to reach me at either jim@modermanadvice.com or jim@thehigherpathproject.com

    Cheers,

    Modern Man Advice

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Jay Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

Every single thing that was said in this post is absolutely right. Self-confidence can shape almost every aspect of one’s life. The type of job you have down to the person you date even to the close one wears. It can shape a life to be for better or for worse.

I have seen some people that just did not excel because they did not have the confidence to go after what they really wanted. They settle with a partner they are not in love with because they don’t have the confidence to go after who they really want.

The list can go on and on talking about self-confidence which is the ability in believing in one’s abilities can forever affect ones life. 

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 27, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hi Jay,

    Thank you for the thorough comment. Couldn’t agree more with what you are saying. 

    Confidence is a key that opens a lot of doors.

    Please stay tuned for more great content coming next week.

    Cheers,

    Modern Man Advice

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Tommy Potter Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

I agree that self-confidence is both overrated and underrated and generally these deviations occur because we pay more attention to external stereotypes, social pressures, fashion and misconceptions of masculinity.

That’s why your question Who am I? It seems crucial to me because knowing our principles, values, character, desires, objectives, and plans is essential to focus our lives and know in which direction we want it to go, despite the background noise.

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 27, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hi Tommy,

    You are absolutely right. Social conformity and false images of what a modern man should be, play a huge factor for the misconceptions and misalignments of masculinity. 

    We often mistake a well-distinguished gentleman with a false image in a magazine or the internet. We are constantly bombarded with a false sense of what we should be as a man we often neglect our own qualities, traits, and judgment to simply conform.

    Thank you for your amazing input!

    Modern Man Advice

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Robert Trevor Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

Self confidence needs to be based on real values, which requires a clear vision of who we are.

Our confidence must not be based on arrogance but on an attitude of humility and service.

We need to define ourselves, in terms of the very highest level of role model.

This way we can avoid creating false perceptions of ourselves.

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 27, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hi Robert,

    You pretty much nailed it better than the article itself! Haha

    Those are very valuable points and cannot be grateful enough to you for sharing those here for people to read.

    Thank you!

    Modern Man Advice

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Neva Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

Wow! I really like your post and am so glad to see content like these is out there. As a mother of two boys, it’s hard for me to teach them how to be “men”. I know I want them strong, smart, and dependable but I also want them to be balanced and compassionate. Thank you so much for this site, I’m going to share it with my boys in the hopes they will get a better understanding of what it means to be not just a man, but a good man. 

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 27, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hi Neva,

    This is amazing! I am flattered at your comment and honesty. And even more flattered you can share this with your boys. Yes, we as men often mistake self-confidence with arrogance and sometimes even rudeness. A distinguished gentleman, which what this content is intended to, has a strong sense of self-respect and a true understanding of one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment and can project it outwards in a way that can contribute to those around him.

    Again, thank you for sharing your kind comment.

    Feel free to reach out at contact@modermanadvice.com with any questions, comments or inquiries.

    Best,

    Modern Man Advice

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cjciganotto Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

Hello,

Self-esteem is a set of perceptions, images, thoughts, judgments and affections that we have of ourselves. I am a person that over the years I learned to love and respect me a lot. 

When I was younger, I wanted to form my own family, this was one of my main dreams, difficult to achieve. Having confidence in ourselves will allow us to achieve all our most beloved dreams. Thanks for sharing such a valuable article.Greetings! Claudio

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 27, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hi Claudio,

    Thank you so much for the honest comment. It is a never-ending process, we never stop learning things about ourselves and that is a very good thing. We simply have to stay humble and understand we barely know our full potential but learning to love and respect oneself is a big part of building a great life. 

    I wish you the best and please stay tuned for more great upcoming content.

    Cheers,

    Modern Man Advice

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tawhid Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

Hi Author,

Thank you so much for your article, I have read your article on the importance of self confidence and To me,The impact self-confidence has in men’s lives is immense. Without even realizing, it creates ripples that touch every aspect of your life. personally, this has been a long road to understanding my abilities, qualities, and intelligence. I often thought I understood those abilities and those qualities that made me who I was as a man. Because it is as much an internal as it is an external image it translates into you that men who you believe you are. make someone as happy as you are with yourself.

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 27, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hello,

    Thank you so much for taking the time to read the article and sharing your own experience and perspective on the matter.

    Best,

    Modern Man Advice

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charles39 Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

this is very uplifting article to me for I was  having issues with my confidence I didn’t have a clue  the importance it has  on my life I am not an arrogant person at least that is what I tell my self but I am not very confident either especially in my lines of work and I will have to learn more from you to gain more on how I can improve my confidence

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hi Charles,

    Thanks for sharing that personal comment. Self-confidence absolutely translates into various aspects of our lives. Like you, I was not aware of its importance until I dug deep and found that it plays such a crucial factor in my career, relationships, financial, and overall success. It was a definitive turn in my life.

    Stay tuned for more insightful advice that will touch other parts of men’s lives.

    Cheers,

    Modern Man Advice

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Luke Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

Hi, very interesting post about importance of self confidence. As you said, the self confidence is something really important cause it has stronger effect on many important aspects in our life. I agree with you that at first we need to understand who we really are, if not, then we can become arrogant and destructive. I like your post, it made me think about it, thanks for sharing with us!

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    Modern Man Advice Feb 26, 2019 at 6:15 am

    Hi Luke,

    Thanks for your comment. Self-confidence is a definitive yet underlying factor in many aspects of our lives. 

    And you are welcome, stay tuned for many more articles that will touch on various aspects of men’s wellness.

    Cheers,

    Modern Man Advice

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